he ain’t checkin’ for you.

It occured to me like an epiphany about the behavior of single women in their 40s who seemingly have it all on the surface and apparent insecurities. Philly bred to be exact. Some colleagues of mine where having a casual conversation about politicians and their “man about town”  projected images. One of them blurted out, “he ain’t checkin’ for you.” It was out of left field that the conversation even steered to dating and politicians having affairs with twenty-somethings. I was really surprised and intrigued at the same time that she even insinuated that I would be interested in some old guy. She went on to say that his wife was “stacked” so he had no need for wandering eyes. LOL we all know that’s a joke. I guess my image is threatening because she said it pretty quickly like it’s been in gossip rotation before. But the bigger picture is the aggressive nature of african american women in their 40s. I attribute this idea to the awkward time period in which they grew up in post de facto racism and hearing their parents complain about inequality, the history of having to prove oneself, the emotional state of loneliness, adapting to social media to solve problems rather than growing up with it… She is a hater nonetheless, and it’s funny because I actually do have a real politician guy on my bench who might as well be the next mayor.